Every time a new state redefines marriage, the news is full of happy stories of gay and lesbian couples and their new families. But behind those big smiles and sunny photographs are other, more painful stories. These are left to secret, dark places. They are suppressed, and those who would tell them are silenced in the name of “marriage equality.”
But I refuse to be silent.Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me – and Our Children shar.es/1azhsD
This sort of thing happens much too often, and it’s a direct result of societal expectations, family pressure, and internalized homophobia. Countless Gay people have succumbed such self-loathing that they marry someone of the opposite sex in hopes that it will somehow “cure” them of their homosexuality. Unfortunately such marriages are characterized by a deep dishonesty, and when the Gay spouse finally comes to grips with the fact that he or she is living a lie, the marriage falls apart, there are often nasty battles over children and property, and the Straight spouse is left with feelings of betrayal and loss.
That’s why it’s FAR better for Gay people to live their lives openly, honestly, and with personal integrity, rather than cowering in the closets they build for themselves.