How Can I Be a Good Father?

Q: I never got along very well with my parents, and I spent most of my teenaged years as a rebel. But now I’m married with two children, and I realize I don’t have any idea how to be a good father. Maybe you can help me. — L.R.

A: The most important thing I can tell you is that God wants you to be a good father — and with His help you can be. After all, God gave your children to you, and He wants you to see them as both a gift and a responsibility. The Bible says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3).

Children learn from us in two ways: by looking at our lives, and by listening to our words. That’s why the first step you need to take is to look at yourself, and honestly ask yourself what kind of example you’re setting for them. You mention you’ve been rebellious much of your life; do you still insist on going your own way, no matter the consequences? Are you still alienated from your parents — who are also your children’s grandparents?

In other words, what will your children learn as they watch you in the years ahead? Face this honestly — and then turn to Jesus Christ and ask Him to come into your life to forgive you and help you do what is right. The Bible says, “Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ” (Philippians 1:27).

But our children also learn from our words, including the lessons we try to teach them. Get a children’s Bible storybook, and read it to them and pray with them every night. Make the Bible your own source of wisdom also; Proverbs would be an excellent place for you to start.

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(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)

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