How Can I Keep From Getting Discouraged in the Face of Constant Criticisms?

Q: I’d probably enjoy my work more if it weren’t for my boss. He never compliments me or says anything good about my work, and this really gets me down. I need a job, but how can I keep from getting discouraged in the face of his constant criticisms? — Mrs. D.B.

A: Have you noticed how your boss treats others in your workplace? If he’s only singling you out for criticism, then it’s understandable why you’d get discouraged.

But I suspect you aren’t alone; he probably acts like this toward everyone. Unfortunately, some bosses believe that the best way to get people to do their jobs is to criticize them. Apparently, they’re afraid that if they praise them, the workers might grow lazy. When King Solomon died, his son foolishly refused the advice of those who urged him to reward the people for their hard work — and as a result, the nation split into two warring kingdoms (see 1 Kings 12).

We all need encouragement, and if someone does a good job (whether it’s at work, or in a family, or anywhere else), they deserve our encouragement and appreciation. The Bible says, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver” (Proverbs 25:11, NKJV).

Your boss, however, probably won’t change — so don’t let his personality get you down. Accept his comments without arguing, and ask God to help you be the best worker you can possibly be. Pray for him also; his attitude may come from his own unhappiness or fear of failure. And if his criticisms never seem fair, it may be time for you to seek another job, as God leads you. Remember the Bible’s words: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart. … It is the Lord Christ you are serving” (Colossians 3:23-24).

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(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)

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